Turning On The Positive, Turning Off The Negative

If you choose to use the negative subconscious and this can be in the things you say or think.

I'm having a bad day
I hate this job
My car is a wreck
I'm not happy with my partner
I don't have enough money

All these are negative statements that your subconscious will go to work on because it is so obedient and will deliver more of these things to you.

If you change these statements slightly to make them positive:

I'm having a good day
I like parts of my job
My car gets me from A to B
I intend to be happy with my partner
I have enough money and I'd like more

You will start to get more of them. Its only a case of making a small change to what you say and what you think, you have to remember that what you say and what you think is what you attract.

Being mindful of what you say and what you think is key, because these are the things you will attract more of and if you want to attract more money you have to talk and think that more money is coming your way because that is what you will attract. If you say and think ‘I haven't got enough money that is what you will attract.

If you find yourself thinking ‘I hate my job', noticing it is the first stage and that's good that you have noticed that you have thought a negative thought. If you really do hate your job, find something even if its really small to like about your job. The more things you can find to like about your job, the more things for you to like will appear until eventually you can say ‘I like my job'.

Sometimes if you are having a really bad day you might want to try lying to yourself and pretending your life is very different, I do this a lot. I go into a daydream and imagine I have everything I want, all the money I could possibly need, luxury goods, fancy car, swimming pool, all the usual things that people dream about. And its great to do that because it moves your subconscious to acting into bringing those things to you, and it makes you feel great and gets you out of the bad day syndrome!

Accessing your positive subconscious is very much like building muscle, the more you use it the bigger it gets and the smaller the negative muscle gets. So learn to use your positive subconscious everyday to get the results you want. Don't forget your subconscious is very obedient and it will deliver whatever you ask, you just have to remember that you are asking, by what you say and what you think.

Author: Christine

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Irritation: Why Do Some People Irritate Us?

In the middle of this can be people who one doesn't completely connect with and yet they don't feel completely disconnected from them either; with their being moments where both elements are involved.

Different Approaches

A common approach can be for one to remove the people from their life that irritate them or if they can't do that, then they might try to keep their distance. This is only natural, as it is human nature to avoid pain and that which creates or triggers pain within us.

Another approach would be to face it directly. Here, one might talk to the person in a way that could be described as an example of being assertive. Or they could end up losing all emotional control and not only raise their voice for instance, but they could become violent.

Right Or Wrong

One approach might be classed as being right and another approach could be classed as being wrong. And as to what description one uses, will depend on many factors. If another person is being consistently rude to another and one calls them out on their behaviour, then it is generally going to be seen as the right thing to do

Let's say that a group of people have gone beyond irritation when it comes to what a corporation is doing to the planet and decide to take action, and this could result in violence, they could see their behaviour as being justified. And all because damage is being done and nothing is taking place to stop it.

Another Angle

However, while there are examples like these that create the impression that irritation is arising as a result of what is talking place externally and that one must therefore take external action to put an end to how they feel, there are also others examples that show a different perspective.

And this is something that Carl Jung was referring to when he said the following "Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves." So based on this quote, it could be said that there are two sides to irritation.

Two Sides

On one side is what is taking place externally and at times, focusing on what is taking place there will be seen as the right thing to do. And on the other side will be what the external experience is triggering within someone.

Because although there will be external things that one finds irritating and plenty of other people could respond in the same way,  there will also be certain things that one finds irritating and other people wont even notice.

Harmless

Even though some things that irritate someone could be causing harm to another person or to the world at large, there is also going to be things that don't cause any harm whatsoever.

And when this is the case, it can make it easier for one to look within themselves and see what is really going on. If something is irritating and many other people have the same outlook, then the need to look within can diminish.

The Heard

However, just because plenty of people agree with something and say that the reason they feel as they do is due to what is taking place externally, it doesn't mean that it is not an internal issue that they all have.

This is backed up by the fact that human beings are drawn to people that see the world as they do. The ego mind needs to be right, because to be wrong is interested as death, even though this is unlikely to happen.

So if one has a certain worldview, they are naturally going to connect to people who have the same. And if other people have the same irritation, then the mind can come to the conclusion that it is in fact out there and not the result of what is taking place within them.

Looking Within

If one is irritated about something and the people around react in the same way, it could show two things. The first thing it will reveal is that they have the same outlook and the second thing it shows, is that each of them are getting their buttons pressed.

What this means is that when someone is exposed to something that irritates them, it is reminding them of something in their past that caused them pain. And while the mind can have disconnected from the experience/s and not see the connection, the body will react as if it is happening all over again.

Examples

Money is an area that can cause strong irritation. So to see people who have money can trigger emotions such as anger and below this can the following feelings: abandoned, worthless, hopeless and powerless.

If one sees another person in a relationship or who is getting their needs met with the opposite sex and feels irritated, it could reflect their own sense of powerlessness when it comes to getting their own needs met.

Irritation

Through feeling irritated, one can protect themselves form feeling what is going on at a deeper level.  When one feels angry for instance, they can feel strong and in control. But when they feel the feelings below this, then can feel vulnerable and out of control.

Awareness

If one wants to grow and doesn't want to stay stuck, then it will be important that they face what is below the irritation. This can be done with the assistance of a therapist, healer or a coach.

Author: Oliver JR Cooper

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Make Your Business Green

Leading a more environmentally friendly lifestyle has become increasingly important because if we continue living the way we were up till a few years ago, this planet would no longer be safe for living anymore. Because it doesn't seem as if we have any other lodging options other than earth, we have to take care of our planet to ensure that it is not only in a livable condition a few hundred years now, but also in a better condition that it currently is.

Hence, It is not only essential that you change your lifestyle, but it is vital that you make your company change as well and make sure that becoming green is your business. If not only to look after mother earth, do it so that it makes it easier to follow the rules that will become a part of our business market in the near future. Not only is going green better for the planet, it is also better for your company's image as people nowadays are inclining towards companies who claim they are environmentally friendly.

Here are some simple ways you can ensure that making your company green, is your business.

Use Eco Friendly Products
Many of our everyday products contain harmful chemicals that not only harm us, but hurt the environment as well. Switch to eco friendly products which specify that they contain no chemicals that will further harm the atmosphere.

Use eco friendly papers or skip using papers entirely whenever possible to save trees and to discourage the chopping down of trees. To ensure this happens throughout your company and is followed by all employees, make it a part of the office culture and stress that going green is your business.

Change Light Bulbs
Switch the light bulbs in your office to LED lights. Even though this might cost you now, it might save you in the long term by conserving energy. These lights save up to 10 million kWh of electricity each year. They also benefit you because they use less energy and last longer; they are also saving your expenses for the long term. Even after replacing your bulbs with energy saving lights, still stress upon saving electricity to your staff and ask them to switch off lights and appliances wherever they can when not in use. By pointing out these facts, your employees will understand that going green is your business.

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Attaining Happiness by understanding the importance of balance between Career Ambition and Personal Relationships

"You can't truly be considered successful in your business life if your home life is in shambles" (Zig Ziglar).

I am sure we all have heard many times about troubled relationships between spouses, family and friends simply because one of them did not have enough time for another. Why? Because they were too busy chasing their career ambitions. While in the process of attaining their career goals they sacrificed all the other important aspects of their lives; their family, their loved ones, their friends and even their health. It sometime takes a person to fulfill their ambition to realize the importance of what they neglected in the process.

 Let me enlighten you about ambition. Ambition is a very powerful weapon if used wisely because the same weapon that is your strength can become self-destructive if misused. A life should have an ambition, goal, and a purpose to keep going. On the other hand, one should not forget that ambition should be a part of life not the entire life.

As a human being we are blessed with so many things in life that carries different values, and significance and that is the reason why we prioritize and make an effort to keep the balance.
 I am not trying to imply that life should be perfectly balanced, it never was and it never will be; that's the beauty of life.  I am only implying that one should constantly put effort into balancing the aspects of their life as long as they live.

 According to a research in the Journal of applied Psychology which analyzed data from Terman Life cycle study where they traced the lives of hundreds of high ability Americans, starting in 1922 when subjects were children and followed them up for 70 years. Some of the participants went on to some of the world's best universities and impressive careers, while other had more modest achievements. The "ambitious" participants -- as judged were clearly more materially successful, working in more prestigious occupations and earning higher salaries.
But despite the fact they seemed to "have it all," the Judge said that they were not successful in terms of what might be considered the most important variables: happiness and longevity of life.
This explains that attaining ambition alone is not the answer to happiness. Happiness is the balance between ambition, relationship, social bonds and many other aspects of life.

On a personal note, my father, one of the most ambitious person I know, who passed away at the age of 47 with a terminal motor neuron disease called ALS , made me understand more about the importance of balance during his last few years. Out of all the things he shared, one thing that stood out to me was when he mentioned that looking back at his life, the only thing he wished he had done differently was to spend more time with family and make as many memories as he could. It made me think at the end it's the simple things that matter the most.

 The reason why people go after their ambition full fledged is because they think that the end result is what will make them happy. Lets admit it, us human beings  are greedy for happiness and we search for happiness through different means. As we all know that the grass is always greener on the other side. What ambitious people often forget is that it is usually the simple pleasures that bring happiness in our lives. Simple pleasures like a baby's first footsteps, a lover's smile, a friend's hug or a parent's kind words.

 I do not suggest that one should stop pursuing their career ambition or goals.  Having an ambition is very important and we need ambition to reach our goals. But one must understand that the other aspects of life is integrated and not separated.

 When you are focused on only one aspect of your life then the rest will eventually lose balance, but that's when you step back and take a "helicopter view" of life. That should help figure out what can be done to achieve that lost balance.

We should understand that gratitude of what we have is what balances the ambition.  The quest of career success should never come at the expense of personal relationship and social bond.
That being said, today I would like to urge you to take a step back and look at your life and appreciate what you have, and whom you have and truly be thankful for it.

Author: Ten Zangmu 

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